Love After Divorce

Dr. Miller-Ott's lecture was quite interesting. But honestly speaking, one of my biggest fears is of divorce. Most likely because I haven't really been exposed to it. My parents aren't divorced, neither is really anyone in my family. At least, not after I came along. This is probably because I'm still trying to hold onto that idea of "true love." The thought of divorce means that obviously, people aren't finding that true love. Which makes me wonder if it's even possible to achieve at all.

Even though there are many reasons for divorce than just getting bored of or falling out of love with a spouse. Cheating, abuse, a whole host of problems. I suppose none of those things really mean that they haven't found that fairy tale "one true love." At the same time, I never really thought that anyone could come back from that. But it's obviously possible since many people do it. The statistics on it, as presented, are numerous and vast. That just goes to show that divorce must shape our idea about love and that love shapes our ideas about divorce.

We always talk about, at least, in class, about falling in love. We never really talk about what happens when you fall out of love. After the commitment, after the ceremony and all these years together with history and kids. It's weird to think that two people who once thought so highly of each other could suddenly have nothing left, but it seems to happen a lot. But at the same time, it's important to talk about and to recognize and to discuss. That people fall in love and then they can fall out of it. But then that they can find someone else. Maybe our ideal of what we want in a spouse changes over the years and the one you have doesn't end up being the one you want anymore. Maybe that's okay, maybe that's not.